This Fall, Blush is proud to launch The Body Politics, a series of interviews with women of all ages, body types, religious and political beliefs who change the world by opening doors and pushing down walls for women by being their true selves.
This month, meet Emily Roy, writer of the blog Entre Montréal et New York, and founder & CEO of Montreal + Fashion Week, the first plus size fashion event in Quebec, which took place last May 2016. The plus size fashionista discusses body image, sexiness and changes in the fashion world.
What is your relationship with lingerie?
I love lingerie. I don’t own a lot of it, but when I fall for a specific item, it’s clear I need to get it before it runs out of my size.
Do you buy lingerie for seduction or for yourself?
First I buy it for myself. When I feel sexy in a particular bra or lingerie set, I know it shows. The way a woman walks when wearing sexy underwear makes her shine in a crowd.
Why do you think people find it so hard to see a plus-size woman as “sexual”? I’m thinking of Julie Artacho’s photoshoot for This is better than porn… It got such a strong reaction!
We all know that sex is for young, beautiful people, right? If you don’t fall in this category, it will be gross or wrong to even think about sex. I don’t know why society has a problem with plus size people being sexual, but because they, again, don’t fit in the typical standard we are used to seeing as sexual.
How would you describe your relationship with your body?
I used to always compare myself to my slimmer friends when I was younger. I remember being so shy and ashamed of myself for being different. I tried so many diets when I was young but it was too much. I never got anything out of it. Growing up, I met amazing plus size ladies who became my friends, and they helped me (without knowing it) to feel better. They were happy, stylish and beautiful, and when we were together we were not outcasts, we were alike. So it boosted my confidence and gradually, I accepted my body. I started to look for other plus size models to look up to and I discovered an amazing plus size community that is so inspiring for everyone.
What celebrity or personality do you find sexy?
Of course, Ashley Graham is THE sexiest woman to me. Her down-to-earth personality, her style, her curves, her look… I also love bloggers GarnerStyle and GabyFresh for their bold looks and confidence. In the men’s department, I think Zach Miko (plus size male model) is sooooo sexy. I wish we could see more of him in our ads in Quebec and Canada. And Seth Rogan… oh my, that guy can ask me out anytime! I’ll clear my schedule!
Does being plus size influence the way you seduce, the way you flirt, the way you interact with people you are attracted to?
Of course! How do you think it is to be on Tinder-like, dating apps, when you are plus size? In a world where people only look at your pictures to decide if they are willing to meet you or not, we definitely get attention. We have to sell ourselves with our personality, our humor and kindness instead of counting on a cute profile pic.
What change do you think needs to happen when it comes to the way plus size women are perceived in the fashion world, and in the world in general?
We are seeing more and more plus size fashion, plus size events, plus size models and it’s great! We need to continue this route if we want to “normalize” plus size people and fashion. We can’t change anything in one day. In 2013, Eden Miller was the first designer to show an entire plus size collection at the New York Fashion Week. Since then, we see more and more plus size models walking for designers on the runway and the reaction is great.
Why do you think we don’t react to men being overweight as much as women? Plus size men walk around without a shirt on the beach or let their tummy show all the time…
I don’t know… Magazines, diets and everything regarding body image are targeting women. I don’t remember seeing a Dove or Special K ad with men in them… Society didn’t add pressure so aggressively on men to have a certain body type and it’s a good thing. It doesn’t mean they don’t think about it, but it’s not as flagrant as the pressure we see on women and young girls.
Why do you think it’s different with women?
Because in the eye of society, we are “the compulsive shoppers”. We buy magazines, we gossip, we are perceived as gullible. Women have to stop comparing themselves to their friends, neighbours, colleagues or celebrities. We are all different, and that’s ok.
What is your personal definition of sexiness?
For me, sexy comes from personality. A man who makes me laugh, who is confident without being cocky, who is kind and intelligent, will be sexier than any male model with an attitude.
*Photo credit: Robert Skuja